To love or be loved

   In the novel, Bridge of Sighs, Richard Russo’s characters ask the searching question “Was it better to love or be loved?”

Is it possible to love without receiving love? When we love someone usually love is given in return. Maybe not. Most people love with the intent of receiving love. Yet, if we love someone without expectations of love in return we love unconditionally. This depth of love may not be given in return. As a parent, we love our children regardless of their behavior and actions. There are times when children don’t love their parents back. Love of a sibling during a disagreement may result in a silent period where love is not given. Not always easy, but in the end best for the heart.

My answer: it is better to love than be loved; to love without anything in return is the deepest love, putting others needs above you.  Loving others comes out of a love of self. To love another from the depth of self love a sense of love will emerge. When you love others the love you receive is from your own heart.

I think that Richard Russo has it right by asking the question…..search for yourself. What do you think, "Was it better to love or be loved"?

Becomingjayne

2012...A Year of possiblities

Happy New Year!

There are twelve months ahead full of wonder, challenges, heartache, and joy.

I suppose that is the joy of a new year. A fresh start. Setting goals. Vowing to change the bad habits we have. Working on the dreams we long to see realized.

There is a sense of mystery…. not knowing what will happen. Isn't that the delight of life? I am excited. No matter what challenges, joys or pains that I will meet this year I have the confidence and belief that I can face them with a positive attitude and make the most of my life in 2012.

I know there will be pains; sadness and disappointment, but there should be an equal amount of joy, laughter, and fulfillment. And I am wise enough to know that life won’t always go my way. Yet, I believe it is my attitude, self confidence, dreams and desires will help mold my year in to something wonderful.

Some highlights to look forward to in 2012: My oldest will graduate from college and it will be a joy to watch him move into the world. The middle boy is off to Rome to study for a quarter exploring the world of art. I will continue to build my friendships, plan new adventures and of course keep on BECOMINGJAYNE.