To love or be loved

   In the novel, Bridge of Sighs, Richard Russo’s characters ask the searching question “Was it better to love or be loved?”

Is it possible to love without receiving love? When we love someone usually love is given in return. Maybe not. Most people love with the intent of receiving love. Yet, if we love someone without expectations of love in return we love unconditionally. This depth of love may not be given in return. As a parent, we love our children regardless of their behavior and actions. There are times when children don’t love their parents back. Love of a sibling during a disagreement may result in a silent period where love is not given. Not always easy, but in the end best for the heart.

My answer: it is better to love than be loved; to love without anything in return is the deepest love, putting others needs above you.  Loving others comes out of a love of self. To love another from the depth of self love a sense of love will emerge. When you love others the love you receive is from your own heart.

I think that Richard Russo has it right by asking the question…..search for yourself. What do you think, "Was it better to love or be loved"?

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